Today is the day – the kitchen is filled with the fragrance of roasting turkey, or ham, or both. The sweet potato and green bean casseroles are bubbling in the oven while the cranberry sauce chills in the fridge. And a multitude of pies are lined up, ready to be topped with billows of fresh whipped cream.
Or at least that’s the vision Mr. Rockwell offers.
For many folks, the day will be spent working at a cash register or in a hospital. Some people will be sharing memories and tears as they say goodbye to a beloved family member or friend. And for too many families, the day’s meal will be more the stuff of survival, rather than celebration.
So today is the day to make a difference. Maybe that difference will be in treating the sales clerk to a smile and some much needed patience. It might be ordering a pizza or two for the late night ER folks. It could include dropping off some hot chocolate mix or flavored coffee at Hospice.
And that difference could be making a personal choice to put thankfulness and gratitude into action not just for one day, but throughout this holiday season.
For the next eight weeks, we will offer some ideas for incorporating compassion into daily living, and we’ll share your own thoughts about and experiences with putting love into action – those random acts of kindness that make all the difference!
Please join us as we look for ways to follow Jane’s example of quietly, respectfully and lovingly responding to those in need.
This post was inspired by Katherine’s actions – Thank you!
The wisest travel advice we’ve ever heard is, “Take half as many clothes, and twice as much money.” That might be why savvy travelers carry less luggage and wear clothing with more pockets than the average tourist.
With or without those over-sized pockets, as folks take advantage of good weather and saved vacation days, they can find plenty of opportunity to make a difference in other people’s lives while on the road and out of town.
The following five ideas are simply starting points; please share your thoughtful travel ideas in the comments section below.
- Buy locally made souvenirs from independent vendors, local markets, or from shops like One World or 10,000 Villages. You’ll support a craftsperson/artist while having a unique, region-specific treasure to remind you of the great time you had.
- Pack your less than favorite – but still nice – clothes. When you arrive at your destination, buy locally made clothes to wear and enjoy, donating your clean but no longer loved clothing from home to folks who would appreciate it.
- If going to an area where the residents struggle with poverty, pack small toys, one-size-fits-all gloves, or little notebooks and puzzles to give to any children you might meet. These small items are a better choice than candy or chocolates because they may not have regular access to dental care, or there could dietary/religious factors to consider.
- Take an instant camera along. New models are small, colorful and under $100. The instantly developed pictures are fun for kids to make silly faces for; exciting for people who don’t have access to cameras/their own pictures to see, and the completed photos can be given to the subjects themselves to keep or share with their family and friends.
- Upon your return, consider sponsoring an endangered animal, family in need, conservation effort, etc. in the area you just visited. Look into giving gifts of service/action to family and friends back home instead of plastic doodads from a tourist-trap. Some good choices like Heifer International or SEVA Foundation can be found at Charity Navigator. Sometimes it’s easier to learn about the needs of a country or region firsthand, and then take action.
No matter where you will roam, or how you plan to travel this year, there are many ways in which you can make every day of your vacation one of service, gratitude and compassion – it all begins when you tuck a little hope, a little light into your luggage.
It’s been a little while since we last posted on this site, but not due to complete inactivity on our parts. We’ve been catching up with the busy-ness of life; the care and feeding of family, friends, careers – but then, you already know all about such things. We’re just glad to be back; grateful for the opportunity to share some pleasant news and helpful information with one another.
One of Jane’s many gifts was a softness that she shared with all living things. Her ability to soothe and heal a variety of animals was a beautiful thing to see. She once explained that she did nothing more than provide a safe place for rest, a little food and water – and time. That may be true, but there was a peace within her that baby bunnies and small birds trusted, allowing themselves to be gently picked up after being wounded by a cat or falling from a nest.
In following Jane’s example of caring for these vulnerable creatures of the woods and fields, lakes and sky, we have shared some of the ways in which you, too can learn about and help animals in need of, as Jane used to say, “a soft place to land”.
- Baby Birds (Nestlings)
- Golden Retriever Rescue
- Baby Bunnies
- Sea Turtles
- Animal Rescue
Please add your suggestions for reputable sources for animal rescue and education in the comments section. Thank you.
(contributed by Susan Ray)
Mona/Jane adored babies. She always believed that each new, fresh, wonderful child welcomed into the world brought with him or her a bright hope for the future. She always said any baby could grow up to change the world for the better.
As an only child, she had a very lonely childhood, so always dreamed of one day having a home filled with babies and children and love. One of the programs she hoped to become more involved with were those allowing volunteers to hold and comfort very small and/or very ill babies.
Although some medical centers welcome ‘cuddlers’, some hospitals prefer the community care for these most fragile of babies in other ways, such as crocheting blankets for them, knitting caps, donating preemie diapers to the family, or by taking advantage of other less hands-on, but just as necessary opportunities.
If snuggling with these tiny bundles of sweetness and hope is something that you’ve always wanted to do, please check with your local medical community to find the ways you can best support the newborns in need of so much love and care and cuddling. Below are a few links to get you started:
So, there you are on Jane’s Day of Service – or any day of the year – sitting in the line at a drive-through, feeling impatient and hungry and distracted by all of the to-dos still left un-done on your list. You glance into the rear view mirror and it’s an older couple, or a scowling businesswoman or a young man looking out the window absently. And then you remember that everyone has a lot on their minds and in their hearts.
Paying it forward is as easy as asking the drive-through person peering at you from the window how much the bill is for the car behind you. Then you pay for all or part of their ticket. If you can spare a buck or two or five – that’s OK. If you don’t flinch at buying the 15 burgers and drinks for the soccer team the woman behind you was picking up – go for it!
Just be sure to say, “Please ask them to Pay It Forward, too. Thanks!”
And there it is – you have made someone’s day a little happier; you’ve surprized a stranger with a good deed – and ideally inspired them to do the same in their travels. Mona/Jane would be delighted!
Please share the ways you’ve paid-it-forward, and your reaction to having been the recipient of such thoughtfulness. Do you have additional ideas, suggestions, ways more people might take part? Please share them with us!